Your Real Self is Not Depressed
Or what would be diagnosed as clinical depression if some folks saw a physician, which many don’t.
This is some of what real depression looks and feels like:
- no physical energy
- can’t be bothered, no motivation to do anything
- would prefer to stay in bed, hard to even get in the shower and get dressed
- everything feels ‘black’
- no hope for the future
- don’t feel any love from or for even the most loved people in one’s life
- sleep is restless
- concentration is poor
- feelings of worthlessness
- reduced ability to control emotions: anger, anxiety, etc.
- this blackness can last for months without pause
There is no medical cure for depression, but there are pharmaceuticals that you can take, possibly for the rest of your life, or at least for several years; which of course makes depression – with its 300 million known sufferers around the (mainly western) world – extremely profitable for pharmaceutical companies, but that’s another story.
If you’re really depressed, the following glib statements and internet memes won’t do diddly – if anything they’ll make you feel worse because they are more or less unattainable and thus not only is one depressed, one must also be quite inadequate and a failure – yes, that’s how it feels:
“Buck up!” “Cheer up!” “Be positive!” “Get a grip!”
“Be happy!” “Let go of unhappiness.”
“Let go guilt and shame.”
“Look for the Light in your Life!”
Yeah, right. Don’t try and sell happiness to a depressed person – it’s not where their head is at – they just want the blackness to go away.
I’ve had a clinical depression. It lasted around 15 years, beginning from the birth of my beautiful daughter in 1998. That’s a long time. It came and went, and mostly it stayed way too long. I took medication on and off for years – ‘off’ because I just didn’t want to be dependent on it – not that it’s addictive, nor did I suffer any of the side effects many people do. Actually, medication is great! And it can lift you up and out of a hole enough that you can start to do some of the other things that really make a difference. (Do NOT stop taking your medication without the support and advice of your physician!) But it’s not a cure, and I wanted a cure.
So I did cure my depression! I know it will never come back. Obviously it took 15 years, although it could have taken a lot less if I’d known then what I know now. Isn’t that always the way?!
There are three aspects to curing depression: physical, emotional/mental, and spiritual. They are the subject of a new course I am offering soon with my friend and colleague Sarah McCrum.
It’s hard to say which of the many things I’ve learnt is the most important, but if I had to single one out I’d say it’s this: your real self is not depressed. Your real self does not feel the blackness – the blackness does not exist for your real self.
To understand this, you pretty much have to have some spiritual view of the world – probably doesn’t matter what your spiritual view of the world is specifically, but if you have some understanding that this isn’t all there is, that there is more than this physical dimension, that there is a God who you might otherwise refer to as the Goddess, or the Divine, or the Universe, or Energy, or a Higher Power, or something… Or maybe you haven’t even got that far, but you know there’s something. Start there, from the knowing that there’s something, and from there it’s not so hard to come to recognise that there is a pure you, a you that is in truth a spiritual being, and that the centre of that spiritual world is pure Light and that you are connected to that Light, even if you can’t feel that connection most of the time, or even any of the time. If you know that Light is there, then know this: your true self, the essence of who you are, is not depressed. The true you is Light, Love, Joy & Happiness.
If there was one thing that made a massive difference for me, it was knowing that. And then it was a short step for me to learn how to connect with the real me more and more every day, and experience the reality of my naturally joyful self. In our course, we’re going to teach you how to do that; along with a lot of other things.
I’ve had enough of seeing this blackness destroy people I love, and destroy so much amazing potential.
I declare war on depression.
DISCLAIMER (because physicians and pharmaceutical companies get pissy if you don’t say these things)
I DO NOT OFFER MEDICAL ADVICE, COURSES OF TREATMENT, DIAGNOSES OR ANY OTHER OPINION
on your conditions or treatment options.
SERVICES OR PRODUCTS are for information purposes only and not offered as medical or psychological advice, guidance or treatment.