“Wow! I’d love to do what you do!”
A lot of people – and I mean a LOT – have said to me: “wow, I wish I could do what you do!” and “wow, you’re so brave!” in talking about my current status of ‘no fixed abode’, travelling around the world.
(right: in India with artist Puneet Kaushik)
And pretty much my response is always along the lines of “well, it’s not so hard really.”
And that really is the truth. Except for the small matter of having spent a lot of years figuring out who I am and what I want.
There have been though, a couple of distinct turning points. One was deciding to leave the proverbial rat race. Another was deciding I wanted an online business so that I could travel.
That process fascinated me so much that I decided I wanted to spend my life studying it, learning about it, and – to the extent I had something useful to say and there were people interested to hear – teach it to others.
(left: in London with Stacey Phillips of Fresh Minds Matter)
I suppose it’s worth mentioning also that I don’t have a lot of fear. At least not now. And that’s from extensive miseries where I’ve come to the realisation that fear doesn’t have a whole lot to offer me. Courage, on the other hand, has served me well my whole life, and is probably my greatest legacy to my children too.
My kids have some of my (and their father’s) best and worst qualities – as all kids do – but they both have my courage; the courage to try something new, the courage to travel across the world alone at 16, the courage to stand up in front of a crowded pub and tell jokes at 17, the courage to insist on being themselves (including to me!), the courage to pursue their own purpose and no one else’s, the courage to love, the courage to take risks. I don’t think they yet realise how bountiful their lives will be because of it.
(right: in New York City with my darling girl)
The other, I think vital skill, is to be able to tune in; or ‘out’ as the case may be. Tune out to pursuing things, and tune in to your purpose, your happiness and your abundance. These three. And the difference is that those three exist already – you just have to connect to their reality. And that is something I’ve learnt to do and am continuing to learn how to do better.
And I can show you how. Life is worth living and it’s never too late to decide to do just that.
I read recently that the biggest regret of the dying is what they didn’t do, not what they did do. I absolutely refuse to let that be me. Don’t let it be you either.